We all struggle with being brave and fearless, right?
I mean, I can’t be alone.
Being brave and fearless sounds easy, but it feels so hard at times, especially when we live in a fallen world.
We see books and articles that say, “Learn To Be Brave” or “Learn To Be Fearless with These 3 Simple Steps.”
Being brave and fearless as Christian women is different though. I’m not saying you can’t learn from reading an article, but we don’t lean on our own understanding. We lean on God.
I remember a few years ago, when I reported my abuse to law enforcement, my palms were sweaty from nerves as I arrived at the police station. My heart felt like it was going to beat out of my chest as I opened the door to walk inside. “Oh gosh,” I thought. “What am I thinking? What am I doing?” If you want to read my story, click here. (Trigger warning: The post contains abuse.)
In those moments, we don’t feel brave or fearless. We actually feel the exact opposite.
We feel afraid!
And that’s how I felt that March day. I felt afraid.
If I’ve felt this way, you have too.
But how do we take steps toward bravery and fearlessness?
How do we trust the person that says, “Do not fear, for I am with you; do not be afraid, for I am your God. I will strengthen you, I will help you; I will hold on to you with my righteous right hand.”? (By the way, that verse is Isaiah 41:10.)
Here are steps you can take towards fearlessness:
1. Trust Your Creator
Yes, girl, God. He goes before you and knows what you will be walking into. Even if it is a police station like me, he will guide you.
Think about it like this. He is walking with you every minute, every second and every day.
2. Engage in Positive Self-Talk
I feel like the social worker in me is coming out right now. If you know me in real life, then you know I am a natural encourager. I love to encourage people.
With that being said, positive self-talk is so important. Saying positive words over to ourselves helps. What we say, I believe, correlates with how we feel.
If we say we aren’t brave, then we won’t feel brave. The same goes with fearlessness.
God knows your deepest desires. He knows when you are scared, happy, feel alone, or just plain sad.
A little sidenote: A few years ago, my nephew was scared to get on a donkey. He became upset. I knelt down beside him and told him sometimes we have to ask God for a little more bravery. So, we prayed a little prayer, and my nephew got up on the donkey and had a blast.
So friend, ask God for a little more bravery.
4. Forgive Yourself
Yes, forgive yourself when you don’t feel brave or fearless, even when the fear kicks in and causes you to be on the sidelines. When you are ready to get up, dust yourself off because there is another 20 seconds ahead for you to work on that bravery and to live fearlessly again.
Being brave and fearless doesn’t happen overnight.
It’s a process. It didn’t just start for me that March day when I got into my car to leave the police station. I didn’t just feel brave and fearless. It takes time, prayer, and many sideline days.
I’ll put that there again for you to read!
When we feel like fearlessness and bravery are long gone, they aren’t. They are just a prayer away. And if I’m being honest, I still have sideline days. I still have days when fearlessness and bravery are missing like a lost shoe, but when I feel like fearlessness and bravery are long gone, they aren’t.
They are just a prayer away, and they are a prayer away for you too.
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