I think we’ve struggled with how to overcome feeling not good enough, but the good news is that there are ways to cope. If you want to dive into how to overcome not feeling good enough, read on.
I love thrifting just as much as I love a good outfit.
I’m sure you’re probably thinking, Ash, your blog is about brokenness and how to heal, “why are we talking about clothes?”
I promise I have a point here, so stay with me.
Thrifting is fun—it’s exciting, and you find some pretty rare things most of the time.
Someone’s trash is your treasure.
You incorporate it into your life by way of decor, outfits, or making something out of your treasure. You clean it, make it shiny again, and sometimes even name it. Please, tell me I’m not the only one who does this?
While someone saw it as trash, you picked it up and found your “rusty gold” as my friend Jess likes to say.
Your “rusty gold” is unique and fun and fits your life.
That’s how I want broken until….now to feel. I want you to know where you came from and embrace who you are now. I always say there’s a difference between feeling broken and being broken. We are all broken people, but feeling broken is something completely different.
But what happens when you don’t trust that you are made new, or your new “rusty gold” isn’t just trashed? You secretly think you aren’t Christian enough or you feel like an imposter.
Well, here are 4 ways you can work on how to overcome feeling not good enough.
Personal Relationship With God
When you have a personal relationship with God, things sometimes just don’t make sense.
I once took a sabbatical and quit my job during a pandemic. If you want to hear more of that story, read more here and learn how to step into the unknown.
While thrifting my “rusty gold,” I found a few of my favorite things. But one didn’t make sense.
I found a water pitcher, but the colors on the pitcher didn’t match my decor. I even asked two people in the store about it because on the outside, it didn’t make sense. Why would I buy a pitcher that didn’t fit my decor?
But it did make sense on another level. It made sense to me. It was pretty, different, and stylish. And that was enough for me to consider it a treasure.
Here is my water pitcher! I just love it!
(If you are wanting to find a Goodwill thrift store near you, which is where I get a lot of my decor, click here.)
Your relationship with God is yours, and it might not make sense to the outside world, but it does to you. It’s similar to my water pitcher. To others it didn’t make sense, but to me it did.
Your relationship with God is yours and yours alone. What he brought you out of and where you are going makes sense because of your personal relationship with God. So trust it!
Stop Comparing Yourself To Others
It’s hard not to compare ourselves to other people’s lives. Their Instagram feed, their shiny job, their new loving relationship.
The older I get, the harder this becomes. I want my blog to be successful, and I want a family and a life that I dream of, but while I’m waiting to learn, the growing season can be hard.
It’s like eating a crab. The outside is hard and it takes a lot of arm work to finally hear the crack and to see the good stuff, the meat.
But in the waiting season, we are all learning and growing, and there are fun adventures and experiences to be had.
Remember Where You’ve Been
Sometimes in a season that seems hard, we forget where we’ve been. We are only focused on the here and now.
When I get sad about my current single life, I think about where I’ve been, and who I dated, and that seems to snap me out of it pretty quickly. Has anyone else had a toxic relationship before? On a serious note, if you would like to read more about my experience on how to move on from the person you thought was the one, here is the link.
So, remember where you’ve been.
Know Who You Are In Jesus
I used to feel like I wasn’t Christian enough or that somehow I missed the train of being just enough of a Christian. I felt that way for a long time until I started unpacking God’s Word.
One of my favorite stories in the Bible is Mary Magdalene. Gosh, I love her story.
If you don’t know her story, here is a quick recap:
Jesus cast out seven demons from her, and then she became a follower of Jesus. After Jesus was crucified, she went to the tomb where his body was and she was one of the first people there. But Jesus had already risen, and an angel told Mary Magdalene and her friend to tell the disciples, and while they were on their way, Jesus met them.
My girl, Mary Magelana, the one that society outcast and forgot about, was one of the first people to see Jesus alive! She truly was broken until….now!
How to overcome feeling not good enough takes time and practice. It’s remembering where you’ve been and where you’re going. It’s trusting and knowing who you are in Christ. It’s stopping the endless cycle of comparing yourself to others.
They don’t have a fraction of what you have. You are unique, amazing and you are broken until…now.
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Blessings,
Ashley Marie
